Mark Gabrielli

Still working on all of it.

I played sports nobody watches. I like hard things that give honest feedback. This is where I write down what I have learned so far, while I still remember what it actually felt like.

Mark Gabrielli

I am not a natural at much. What I have is a willingness to do the same thing over and over until it stops being hard. That is most of my story.

My grandfather put a golf club in my hands and it took. Along the way I picked up bowling, archery and fishing, and I learned to draw. None of it is glamorous. All of it tells you the truth about yourself immediately, which is the part I like.

On a bad day I am my own worst enemy, and I have gotten a little better at catching it before it costs me. That is really what this is about. Not arriving anywhere. Just getting a bit better and being someone worth being around.

Mark Gabrielli with his arms raised on a beach walkway
A good day, doing nothing in particular.
The one that shaped me

I stopped trying to hit it hard.

A PGA Tour pro taught me a three quarter punch with a little cut on it. Learning how the ball spins, and how to make it move where I wanted, changed everything.

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Handicap, before and after.

A beautiful sunrise over a serene golf course landscape with lush greenery and sand traps.
Things I do

Six things that keep me honest.

Each one gives feedback you cannot argue with. That is rarer than it should be.

Photographs via Pexels.

How I try to operate

Simple things, done for a long time.

01

Do the boring thing first

Make the bed. Do the reps. The unglamorous part is the whole thing.

02

Reps beat talent

Talent sets the ceiling. Reps set the floor, and the floor is where you live.

03

Take the small loss

Punch out sideways. Most disasters are the recovery attempt, not the first mistake.

04

You are the opponent

Nobody else is really in the way. I am the one I have to manage.

Why this exists

So it does not get lost.

People mostly get the finished version of you. They do not meet the one who was twenty three with nothing figured out. Nobody writes that part down, so everybody ends up learning the same things the slow way.

My grandfather handed me a golf club and a way of going about things, and almost none of what he knew got written down. This is me not doing that.